I have such a problem with secondhand embarrassment that if I’m watching something and a character does something that I find even the littlest bit embarrassing I have to either mute the TV or plug my ears and avert my eyes. It makes me really anxious.
So its not just me then.
I have been waiting all year to post this.
This has been in my queue for months.
I missed it last year and I vowed that would NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN.YES
omg i didnt reblog this last year!
I’ve read a lot of great essays about how fandom is female-majority and creates a female gaze and a safe space for women and etc. But spend five minutes in fandom and you’ll have an unsettling question.
Why does a female-majority, feminist culture hate female characters so much?
It’s not a question of if it happens. You know it does. You can go into any fandom and see it. Some fandoms are worse than others, but it’s always there. Scroll down the Tumblr tag for any show, movie, book, comic, whatever, and you’ll see nothing but love for the men, and a lot of unjustified hate for the women, maybe with a few defenders here and there insisting on their love for the women in the face of all that hate.
To be clear, we’re not talking about female villains. Male villains get just as much hate. It’s fine if you hate Bellatrix Lestrange or Dolores Umbridge, you’re supposed to. (I personally stan for Bella, but I realize that wasn’t the authorial intent.) This is about people hating Hermione, Ginny and Luna, but loving Harry, Ron and Neville. This is about how ambiguous male antiheroes, like Snape, Zuko, or pretty much any male vampire protagonist can get away with walking that fine line between good and evil and not only remain sympathetic, but be even more beloved for how ~tortured~ he is, but when a female character is morally gray that bitch has to die.
So you can’t tell me it’s okay that you hate Sansa because you also hate Joffrey and he’s a dude. They’re not comparable. It isn’t even comparable if you pick a female antihero. Let’s do this apples to apples, here.
We all know that fandom does this. We all know that it’s fucked up and symptomatic of internalized sexism. What’s really fucking weird about it, though, is that the women doing this hating often aren’t ignorant. These are feminists. These are women who can go on meta-analyses of the writing. Some will hide behind pseudo-feminist reasons for their hate—oh, it’s the writing, we just aren’t given strong female characters! (I saw this used for the women of AtLA: Katara, Toph, Azula, et al. This was about when I just backed away slowly because I know a lost cause when I see it.) I’ve seen women who denied being sexist, but couldn’t name a single female character they liked. And it’s always that the female characters aren’t good enough, even when they obviously have a double standard, and they’re measuring women on an impossible scale full of contradictions and no-win binds, while the men are just embraced and loved pretty much for existing.
The reaction nearly every time one of these women is called out is not to say, “Huh, you may have a point, I should examine the way I judge and process women’s actions more closely,” but an insistence of their feminism, followed by a more detailed description of why that particular woman is terrible and she hates her, as if the whole point were not that fandom is already oversaturated with that kind of hate, and as if the person doing the calling out were not already 110% done with that bullshit.
Particularly telling is that male-dominated corners of fandom do not have this problem. They fetishize, they objectify, they ignore. They don’t hate like this.
We know it happens. What I want to know is WHY.
Theories follow below the cut.
I’m guilty as charged and now officially shamed and also educated.
I’ll try to better. I think we all should.
That feeling when you love your new haircut until the morning after and you look like a scarecrow rather than a perfectly styled beauty queen… I’m feeking it right about now.
Teaching Kids Consent, Ages 1-21 -
This is so amazing and so necessary.
This is amazing. Kids are never too young to learn.
“Challenge accepted!” —SPN fandom.
omg this is still going
IT’S A RULE TO REBLOG EVERY TIME IT SHOWS UP ON YOUR DASH.
i’m not even in the supernatural fandom and i’m still going to reblog
lost count of the times i’ve reblogged this
i will obey
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can we talk about the way chuck is looking at castiel here
like, we know who chuck is. he’s god. he’s castiel’s father, and let’s say that in this scene he was already god. look at the way he’s looking at his son, this angel he created. he asked his angels to love humanity more than him. and there’s this angel, sacrificing himself for the sake of a human. he’s gonna hold them off. he’s gonna hold them all off. and castiel knows what’s gonna happen. it’s like a captain going down with his ship (and i mean an actual ship). he knows what’s gonna happen, and so does chuck. and he’s so proud of cas. because cas has done exactly what was asked of him.
OH GOOD GOD
The entire angel kind prides themselves of being devout followers of their father, treats Lucifer as an abomination for his rebellion, sees Anna as mud underneath their soles for turning away from her original nature, but they just don’t understand that when god told them to love humanity, he told them to love humanity—to extents undefinable, more than their own selves, more than their own survival, as their equals if not more so. They pride themselves so much for being in line, good ducklings following the mother duck, but in their very core they’re not following the one definitive command they were given, sights set on their own misconstructions and their agendas and their apocalypse.
Anna did, though. Recognized humanity as so much more then what she was despite the ruckus of their existence. Lucifer, at least, had enough integrity to admit to himself that he never will. And then Cas. For humans so broken, souls nothing but bruises and scar tissue, too. Cas chose them over all that he knew and believed and fought for through out his eons of existence.
And that’s why Chuck pieced him back together. Because if that’s not love for humanity, nothing else is.
Chuck is God. The end.